Home Making – A Lost Art and Modern-Day Necessity for a Healthy Society

“Largely forgotten today is the fact that the home is the basic foundation of any society. It is the most influential element of national character. It lays the groundwork for individual character, values, goals, morality, self-control, and loyalty. J .Edgar Hoover emphasized before the Special Senate Committe investigating organized crime in interstate commerce: “The home is the first great training school in behavior or misbehavior and parents serve as the first teachers for the inspirational education of youth. In the home, the child learns [or should learn] that others besides himself have rights which he must respect. Here the spadework is laid for instilling in the child those values which will cause him to develop into an upright, law-abiding, wholesome citizen. He must learn respect for others, respect for property, courtesy, truthfulness, and reliability. He must learn not only to manage his own affairs but also to share in the responsibility for the affairs of the community. He must be taught to understand the necessity of obeying the laws of God.” (The MODERN ROMANS –)

In our new age of feminism, we have been taught that men are oppressors and that we should pursue a career and work outside the home, essentially giving way to the “do it all” mentality and I cannot disagree more with this concept. Don’t get me wrong I’ve met my fair share of toxic men. I’m a survivor of domestic abuse, but that does not mean we should generalize the entire population of men as toxic. In fact, men, good men with a clear sense of duty and morality, enable women to do the most important job on this planet, which is to raise the next generation of youth. The patriarchy, which by the way stems from the Greek word patriarkhes, meaning the rule of the father, NOT THE RULE OF RANDOM MEN, enables safety and security, which allow women to focus primarily on the nurturing of their children. 

By having women enter the workplace she leaves a principal responsibility to strangers and government institutions.

Why is this a problem? Because often these people don’t have your children’s best interest at heart! Minimum wage daycare workers simply do not have the mental and physical capacity to attune to your child’s needs among 10-20 others all day. It is very common for institutionalized daycare workers to be burnt out. Just think about it, you know what it’s like to spend a full day with your toddler, now imagine adding other kids into the mix that aren’t yours and aren’t always well behaved! You would most likely find yourself yelling or pulling your hair out, we’ve all been there. Instead of attaching to parental figures children are left with no choice, but to attach to strangers, television characters, social media influencers, and their own peers, which leaves the parent virtually powerless to outside influence. 

Women have been gifted with the ability to nurture and raise resilient children by providing them a safe space, a training ground for future experiences. It is the primary role of Mom to be their child’s first secure attachment, this initial attachment will color every other relationship that child has for the rest of their lives. Erica Komisar in her book Being There refers to this concept as emotional refueling. Moms’ presence allows for a child to explore and experience the world, when the child encounters something stressful he can come back to mom for co-regulation, and when he’s received his emotional refueling, he is able to once again go out and explore. And the cycle continues!

Childhood isn’t supposed to be stressful, however, by heeding modern advice, advice that is so often contrary to our natural instincts, we are subjecting our children to an unhealthy amount of stress. Pushing our babies towards independence before they are ready by abandoning them in the name of feminism and sending them to daycares puts our children at a disadvantage.  

Some may call this coddling, but co-regulation in the early years of life is vital to long term mental health. Resiliency stems from dependency. Our children need to be given the gift of dependency before they are ready for independence. We essentially shield our children from too much stress. Did you know the cry it out method can actually cause damage to the amygdala in our babies’ brains Dangers of “Crying It Out” | Psychology Today United Kingdom? That is until their brains are developed enough to be able to internalize the emotional regulation that we provide for them. Here are some great educational videos on the importance of Mom by my favorite phycoanalyst on the topic of parenting:

Why the ‘Cry it Out’ Method Harms Babies | Erica Komisar, LCSW – YouTube.

How Attachment Shapes Your Child’s Long-Term Mental Health

Psychoanalyst: “Children need a childhood!” | Erica Komisar

“Daycare Impacts On A Child’s Brain & Socialization Myths” – Dr. Erica Komisar, LCSW | The Spillover

In ancient Rome Mothers were highly esteemed!

Tactitus, a Roman historian of the early Empire, wrote, “In the good old days [of the Republic], every man’s son, born in wedlock, was brought up not in the chamber of some hireling nurse, but in his mother’s lap, and at her knee. And that mother could have no higher praise than that she managed the house and gave herself to her children.” The working wife has been linked to marriage problems as well as child-rearing problems not only in ancient Rome, but in our modern world as well. The disintegration of the family as the basic unit of our societal structure is not a new phenomenon. This has been happening for quite some time now.

The battle of the sexes has to end. Man and woman need each other. Our roles as women are different, but equal in value. Sexual dimorphism, Gods design was to specialize and through the union of man and woman we create a beautiful symbiosis. Part of the problem is the majority of men are NOT MEN; they are boys in adult bodies. Boys lack good father figures, causing them to be stunted in their ability to lead a family and if their mothers were outside of the home in the first 3 years of their lives then chances are they lack emotional intelligence as well. A man that lacks morals and emotional maturity is a dangerous man, in my opinion making way for an epidemic of domestic abuse. However, I’m not a man and I can only focus on what my experience has allowed me to preach.

I do not believe in traditional roles as to enslave women to their homes. The beauty of the women’s rights movement was to give women a choice. A choice to be a mom and to have a fulfilling career. But I do not believe you can do both AT THE SAME TIME, especially in the first 3 years of your child’s life. If you decide to have children, give them the gift of a mother at home. They need you during those critical developmental years. Home isn’t just the house you live in; home is MOM! 

Where do I start?

1. Start asking questions and educate yourself. Our western institutions and industries are corrupt. We have been programmed to obey, essentially enslaving ourselves to the system. Stop trusting everything you are told by government authorities. And ask yourself, who owns you? Your intuition or your fear? The quiet voice of God inside you or your fear of what others may say, the fear of rejection, humiliation, criticism, etc.?
2. Be deliberate in what you consume, every decision you make has an impact on your wellbeing. Learn self-sufficiency by making conscious decisions about the food you eat, the clothing you wear, the household products you use, the music you listen to, the television programs you watch, the content you consume. Take 100% responsibility for the life you live. Become your own advocate and only choose things that will uplift the spirit.
3. Heal your gut and detox. Do whatever you can to reduce your toxic load and return to traditional eating practices!

By using critical thinking and introspective skills, you will be one step closer to forming a strong family unit and meaningful communities. Please don’t get me wrong! I’m sure there are well meaning people in various societal institutions. What I’m advising you to avoid is trusting big business, big corporations. Remember the phrase absolute power corrupts absolutely. Support local and keep your investments close to home.

Our Food Industry Is Corrupt

A big part of homemaking is cooking, herbal remedies, and preservation techniques like canning, lacto-fermentation, and dehydration. With two working parents many come home exhausted, they crave convenience. Pre-made meals, canned goods, and processed foods with a long shelf life are staples in a Western diet. The problem with this however is the fact that our Food Industry is Corrupt. 

We are poisoning ourselves and our children! And the healthcare industry profits from it! They keep trying to sell us a magic cure for our declining health, from medications to weight loss shakes to gym memberships. It’s time to wake up to the uncomfortable truth that most doctors are following a script, they want to placate your symptoms without truly addressing the underlying issues at hand. Our food, water, clothing, skincare, hygiene products. kitchenware, and more are toxic. Don’t get me started on vaccines, which may the leading cause of Autism in children, with heavy metals in every dose, such as aluminum and mercury, which are known neurotoxins and formaldehyde which is known to cause damage to DNA. Here’s a great resource for those wanting more information on the safety of vaccination, written by the Weston A. Price Foundation: Vaccination.pdf

After reading the ingredient list in a vaccine insert, you cannot convince me that these people truly care about our health.

They want you addicted; it makes the food industry rich. And guess who benefits from the health problems and malnutrition caused by the food industry? The pharmaceutical industry. You pay them to give you the pills to keep you alive so you can keep eating the manmade chemicals they know aren’t good for you and the cycle continues.

Don’t believe me? Check out these videos:

The Shocking History of Water Fluoridation

The food pyramid is literally a scam. – YouTube

Big Pharma Is Fooling You & Making Americans Sick! – Corrupt Companies & Toxic Food | Calley Means – YouTube

How Big Pharma Makes Healthy People Sick | ENDEVR Documentary

Why Big Pharma Re-Defined Mental Illness – The Age Of Anxiety – Health Documentary

Health Lies in the Food You Eat

I hate to break it to you, but there is no magic potion that will give you long lasting health and vitality. You are what you eat.

At 18 years old I was diagnosed with severe IBS resulting in chronic constipation and stomach pains I also had severe mental health issues including, depression, anxiety, self-harm and suicidal ideation. I spent 10 years in therapy on a number of antidepressants, in and out of treatment facilities and support groups. Hundreds of thousands of dollars later I left therapy and succumbed to my own demise.

That’s when I found Dr. Natasha Mcbride’s book Gut and Psychology Syndrome Gut and Psychology Syndrome: Natural Treatment for Autism, Dyspraxia, A.D.D., Dyslexia, A.D.H.D., Depression, Schizophrenia, 2nd Edition eBook : Campbell-McBride, Natasha : Amazon.ca: Books. I tried her protocol, and my depression and anxiety faded, along with my chronic constipation and bloating.

So many people spend their lives chasing their next hit of dopamine and running away from the unrest in their soul.

I was one of them. I was living a life so devoid of natural pleasures that I chased the only things that made me feel happy. Junk food, drugs, alcohol, promiscuity, money, fame, power, television, social media, video games, essentially anything that gives our bodies dopamine can be abused for the purpose of filling the void inside. Unfortunately, this happiness is only temporary and can come with a cost. 

The biggest challenge we face today as Americans is the Me-Complex. Everything is about me, me, me. Distracted by material pleasure people no longer want to get married and have kids, they are trapped in an eternal childhood. They want to travel, eat expensive food, live in luxury, and have free sex with as little responsibility as possible. It is no wonder why so many young adults feel this way when they struggle to feel good in their bodies. We are looking to get our empty love cup filled as Sven Erlandson would say. Here’s a great book written by Sven that addresses the unmet needs of your soul There’s A Hole In My Love Cup: The Badass Counseling® Method For Healing The Soul And Unleashing Greatness: Erlandson, Sven: 9781625505385: Books – Amazon.ca

Healing My Gut Was a Spiritual Awakening

Western Civilization has drifted so far from nature that many of us are left longing to connect to something bigger than us. Our sickness cements us to this material existence. Some have never even experienced what it feels like to have the mental clarity and physical energy gifted to us by God as some of us were born into sickness. With sick mothers and sick grandmothers, each generation becomes less and less genetically sound. Our brain acts like a receiver which “picks up” the fundamental consciousness that is all around us and transmits it into our own being. Damage to this receiver distances us further and further from God, which compromises our abilities as humans and obscures our purpose.

The more you educate yourself on the systems and institutions driving the Western World you will begin to unveil a more sinister plan. This is not just about elites trying to make a quick buck. It is spiritual warfare. Light verses Dark. From the media to public education and college, from television to music, right down to the very food we eat, it is all being tampered with by dark forces.

What if I told you that you could find pleasure and purpose already inside of you?

The body has a remarkable healing ability. It all starts with making the right choices and having the patience and faith to delay gratification. Many people believe feeling sluggish is just a part of aging, I can assure you that it is possible to feel like a 8-year-old booming with life force in a 30, 40, 50-year-old body. In working with my clients, I focus strongly on healing the gut and reducing your toxic load to give you a better chance at building a life worth living. For some, healing work can take years, it took me a little over a year to fully heal my gut and I’m still working on detoxification and lifestyle changes, but it is worth the work! My health is something I will never again take for granted. The balance between, mind, body and spirit has given me drive and allowed me to connect to a higher purpose and altruistic spirit.